Millionaire Matchmaker Features Bi-curious/Lesbian Date

AHHH, so excited:
http://lezgetreal.com/?p=27974

Navy Wife the Nanny

I don't lie. I have always been fortunate enough to never have to.  Until now.

Since Jo and I moved, I have been working from home. While I love writing all day, I need to supplement my income. My money troubles have been interfering with the creative process and to  be honest, I feel pretty damn guilty that Jo always takes me out. Let's remember: as a result of Don't Ask, Don't Tell, she doesn't get a penny for my existence (unlike her straight counterparts who receive additional income for their spouse and children.)

Hence, I have been MIA on my blog; instead, I have been all over Monster. Unfortunately, 
we are in a recession. Who knew? I've been away from the job search for so long, I didn't realize what slim pickings are out there.  I received a few callbacks regarding my resume, but sadly, no one who has called is paying much.

I have no service experience or I would most likely be tending bar right now. I decided to return to a job I haven't done since college, but figured it would be like riding a bike. Grabbing the classifieds 
and perusing Craig's List, I searched for a nanny position.

I found the perfect family in no time and began my new position quickly. The kids have been good. Ok, it has been challenging  to transition from young professional to professional poopy wiper, but 
we shall save that for another post. The reason I write today is to get my secret off my chest...I'm gay!

Sure, all of you know this already and could care less. But my new family has no idea. Jo is simply my roommate and I dive deeper into the closet on a daily basis. Go figure? I hoped getting a new job would get me OUT of the house. Oh, the irony.

Why didn't I just tell them? Well, for one, you never know if parents will be weird. Some actually have the false belief that we will infect their children with 'the gay.' Another huge reason I didn't share my sexuality? Jo's career. What if my new employers had friends in the military? Even if they were comfortable with my sexual identity, what if they told the wrong person about mine and Jo's relationship?

Alas, my bank account has some padding and the depression from my lonely days has subsided. But I lie, just like Jo does, about who I am. I'm finally getting up and OUT every day, only now, I'm more IN than ever.

A New Kind of Straight Bar: On Ourbiggayborhood.com

Check out my new post on a great new site: http://www.ourbiggayborhood.com/2010/03/a-new-kind-of-straight-bar/

DADT Repeal in Senate: Contact Your Senator TODAY

Imagine for a moment:

What would your life be like if you could not live openly with the woman or man of your choice.   This is how gays in the military, and we- their invisible partners- must live each day. We hide.

As Bridget reported earlier (read here), the Military Readiness Enhancement Act of 2010 was introduced to the Senate today.  This bill would REPEAL Don't Ask, Don't Tell. If passed, The Department of Defense would still conduct its study; however, they would be determining HOW to implement repeal and not WHETHER to implement repeal. In addition, the Military Readiness Enhancement Act would END discharges immediately.


The Senate needs to hear from you. Please take action now!!! Tell your Senators to co-sponsor and pass the Senate's Military Readiness Enhancement Act of 2010.  PFLAG has a great site to figure out who you should contact. Learn the name of your U.S. Senators, here.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell is a disgusting law that must end. Even if this bill will not change your daily life, please help us bring change to our nation.  This is an important step in all of our equal rights.

What Should You Be?

"Be who you are," said the Dutchess to Alice, "or, if you would like it put more simply, never try to be what you might have been or could have been other than what you should have been." (Lewis Carroll)

It's been awhile since I just wrote.  No agenda, no plea to end Don't Ask, Don't Tell...just me and my crazy thoughts about life.   I can feel that I haven't been writing enough. There is a serious difference in my energy when I do.

I don't know if I've ever shared my professional background with you.  Prior to moving with Jo, I had my 'dream' marketing job.  The money was right, I had my own corner office and fabulous benefits.  The position was exactly what I "could have been." It was the best job I have ever had, yet I was miserable.  My daily professional existence sucked all of my creative drive.

I've always wanted to write in order to touch hearts and make lives better, mostly those of anyone feeling lost and lonely.   I was so confused and sad during my teenage and college years. By sharing my experiences with depression and coming out, I hope that others won't feel they are on their own. And now again, I am in a situation where I often feel invisible.  I write about our life under Don't Ask, Don't Tell so those of you going through it won't feel so alone.  We're in this together. 

With that said, I have always believed I would do this on some sort of large scale.  I don't want to reach just one or two people, but really be a voice for a generation.  I lost this dream for a long time.  It is so fucking scary to admit that you want to go out on a limb.  That you want to achieve greatness. That you want to leave everything you could be, and be everything that you are.  Especially, when somewhere along the way, you may have lost yourself.  Slowly but surely, I'm getting back in touch with my dreams.

And that's where we are now.  Jo works crazy hours, achieving her grand dreams and providing for us so that I can achieve mine.  She believes in me. Some days, lately most days, I have been letting my fear of failure (and lack of fiscal contribution) get the best of me. The only thing left? For me to believe in myself.  This is the key hurdle between us and our dreams, isn't it?

So I remind you again, of the Dutchess' words, "Never try to be what you might have been or could have been other than what you should have been."

Unsure of what I "should be doing" to attain my crazy dreams, I will continue to have passion each  day, write from my heart and simply be true to who I am.

End Funding of DADT Discharges

Sometimes, I really think we need to move out of this country.  Our lack of equal rights disgusts me and the politicians often disappoint. Checking the morning news, I stopped at LezGetReal to see Bridgette LaVictoire's post about Senator Gillibrand's amendment to end the funding of DADT discharges.  I clicked ahead with anticipation of a formal announcement.

Gillibrand is indeed proposing this amendment. Unfortunately, her intention-her integrity-has been questioned.  Bruce Blakeman, an opponent against Gillibrand for the US Senate in NY, believes  Gillibrand is simply trying to impress voters at this point in time. Blakeman stated, “Sen. Gillibrand’s actions are nothing more than political grandstanding in an election year. The Pentagon is examining the policy and will make a recommendation in the future. Attempting to short circuit the process to score cheap political points is irresponsible. … We are a nation at war and the last thing our troops fighting overseas need is for politicians back home to be placing their political ambitions before the mission.....Sen. Gillibrand should encourage a full and honest debate by our military leaders in determining whether “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” is a policy that should be continued or repealed.”

THE LAST THING, Mr. Blakeman, OUR TROOPS FIGHTING OVERSEAS NEED is to HIDE THEIR FAMILIES.  The LAST THING these troops need is one more year of FEAR.  
Blakeman's comments are unfounded, inapporopriate, and an attempt at media attention- shoot! He just got what he wanted, I'm writing about it- again-for LGR.

As a member of the GLBT community that Gillibrand defends, I have never questioned her integrity.  I appreciate her consistency, action and determination for our equal rights. I understand that things need to be done 'right' but words are no longer enough. I wish they would offer an olive branch in the form of defunding of discharges. While the Pentagon 'examines' the matter, Senator Gillibrand proposes an amendment that could immediately ease our fear and set the end of Don't Ask, Don't Tell in motion.

In regards to Bruce Blakeman- if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

Don't forget to call the White House, friends.

CBS Denies Gay Super Bowl Ad

Jo left early for work this morning so I've been catching up on the news.  My peaceful Sunday morning disrupted with some Gay Hate. 

Super Bowl Sunday and I'm already annoyed.  I don't even watch the game!  A former marketing guru, I tune in to the Super Bowl each year to watch the commercials.   CBS determined which controversial ads they will not air this evening. The Victim? ManCrunch

Clearly, I'm not too familiar with male dating websites, but as far as I can see, this one is no different than Match.com, except for their homosexual focus.  I will admit ManCrunch's commercial is a little racy with two men in jerseys touching hands over a bowl of chips leading to an abrupt makeout session.

But aren't Super Bowl ads typically the most divisive?

Oh wait- I forgot.  CBS did accept one controversial ad-the anti-abortion commercial featuring the mother of quarterback Tim Tebow.  So is it safe to say CBS would rather have children asking their parents about abortion rather than why two boys are kissing?

I'm not sure why everyone considers us (gays) so controversial?  Just when I think we are getting somewhere, I realize society isn't nearly as progressive as I think. And CBS is as conservative as I thought.

 

Check the ManCrunch Commercial